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scorps

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scorps says:

so anyway my mum died

bit of a shitter really although she stopped talking to me after I informed her that she was going to be a great grandmother and my daughter uninvited her from her wedding because my father was invited and my mum said she had to choose between them.


What really has upset me though is that she actually died in August and I only found out last night when someone thought it was about time I was told after discovering I hadnt got a clue. The thing about my mum is that every time she had a problem with me, my sister followed suite and ignored me too. I can not believe that she didnt think it was important to let me know. I normally pick up the phone and offer out an olive branch during one of my outcast phases but this time Id had enough of being ignored for no reason so was waiting to see how long I would have to wait for my mother to do the right thing and call me to apologise, Im not sure how Im feeling, shocked I expect but not distraught as I have learned not to ever rely on either of them for any kind of support or affection so maybe thats why I dont feel much, I think I am not being petty when I say I will never forgive my sister or speak to her ever again:upset:

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chriscg

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chriscg says:

what

a sad tale.Its cerianly not easy with most families however your sister is unbelievable.

 Im sorry your mums past away.

i really feel she should have been able to put aside any differences and just give you a call. nobody wants to make a phone call like that but u get it done,just because its what u should do.

Take time,reflect,dont torture yourself.very important that last bit

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old(ish)git

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old(ish)git says:

aehewitt...

I take it your Mum is suffering....go round and give her a big hug and apologise....may not be anything specific,but don't be like me and think of all the things you could have said sorry for when she was alive,when it's too late.

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stevebaldy

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stevebaldy says:

if it is possible to

form a picture of someone from a distant, occasional post of some random internet forum, then i get the distinct impression that you are a proud mother, clearly caring for her offspring........My wife has a very difficult relationship with her mother, which i find really odd, but i can sympathise with how things were, though the sister scenario seems unforgiveable!  All the best, and hope you are able to tend to your 'flock' this Christmas....

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babyblade41

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babyblade41 says:

Sprag

some wise words posted.

 

Hope you find it in your heart to forgive

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old(ish)git

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old(ish)git says:

stevebaldy...

..everything is forgivable....it really is. Unforgiveness hurts everyone.

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aehewitt

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aehewitt says:

Vulc

It is sad... but when she goes maybe my Dad and my sister`s just might be able to mend a few very broken bridges.

Scorps i feel for ya i really do.....

SL,that's a very interesting read..

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vulcanrider

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vulcanrider says:

aehewitt

too late for my bro and me, the 'broken bridge' was our dad who died age 49 6 months after she fucked off with another bloke knowing he was terminally ill. I 'get on' with her because of a promise I made to him before he died, forgive ? but not forget that at 19 I was left to deal with a military funeral, my bro was 15 and she had dissapeared only reapeared to force us to listen to her reasons before she would sign the papers to release the insurance money to enable us to bury him, but hey this thread isn't about me it's about scorps not knowing her mother had died months ago I struggle to understand why her sister didn't tell her. The human race ? I can't be bothered with it much sometimes.

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KrismusSikpunz

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So very sad yet so common..

for families to tear themselves apart. Nothing we say can help, I hope in time the rift heals before it is too late.

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scorps

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scorps says:

i read that link

the golden child and scapegoat rung true for me, there is nothing to forgive as my sister is now dead to me. My life will go on as normal, my daughters will continue to make me proud and I will enjoy my grandchildren, they will never go through what I did. im not grieving, nor will I.

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paulderekjohnson

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Scorps

I only have one thing to add....

Something upbeat

:smile

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